Can Friends and Family Sabotage Your Diet? Set Boundaries: Don’t Let Others Sway You From Eating Healthy

March 07, 2017 by Kathleen Renner, L.C.S.W.
An obstacle often encountered in the journey to healthy eating is family and friends, who, perhaps while well meaning, can sabotage one’s resolve. “A little cake won’t hurt,” or “don’t be such a downer,” can demean your efforts and can deter your good intentions. Whether family members or friends, they may feel threatened by your changing lifestyle and attempt to disrupt your new Nutritarian diet. I refer to these people as saboteurs or food bullies.
The answer is to be confident in yourself and your goals and set boundaries to what is acceptable from others and what is not.
Why is setting boundaries so important? Personal boundaries protect our individual interests and shield us against harmful influences. Learning how to create healthy boundaries is a critical social skill. Finding a balanced approach, however, is essential because it’s important not to ruin otherwise good relationships. When we learn how to create boundaries from a place of self-love and wisdom, it serves us well. Setting clear personal boundaries is key to ensuring relationships are mutually respectful, caring, and supportive. Boundaries are a measure of self-esteem and they help set limits for acceptable behavior from those around you. Establishing healthy boundaries helps empower you to make healthy choices, feel respected and understood. Otherwise, not setting such boundaries often is fraught with fear of rejection or abandonment.
The key to boundaries is consistency. People in your life are used to you being a certain way, when you change, often you will encounter resistance. It’s important to continue to stick to boundaries even when entrenched in your new healthy lifestyle.


HOW TO SET BOUNDARIES:
•COMMUNICATE: I highly recommend sitting down with family and friends and letting them know you have started a new health journey. Ask for their support and help. Don’t be defensive or accusing, just ask for their understanding during this transitional time.
SET PHYSICAL BOUNDARIES: If your family is unwilling to change their eating lifestyle, insist on separate kitchen space for your food. Out of sight and out of mind is key. Tell them not to offer you SAD foods and to be respectful about eating foods not acceptable in your healthy diet in front of you, especially in the beginning of your transition. Many people will be very interested in this new life change and want to know more. This may make you feel defensive, but never get into a debate or try to justify yourself to anyone. Simply stating that you are excited about your new journey is enough. If people have questions, answer them, but do not get stuck in a cross examination or argument.
GIVE A HEADS- UP: If people typically tend to serve or bring you SAD foods on special occasions, reach out to them in advance and say you are on a special diet that restricts these foods, but you would love to see them!
BE CONSISTENT: You set the tone for your new lifestyle. If you are wishy-washy about it and are not consistent, people will not take you seriously.

Your success is up to you!

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“Our fast ‘food” display is now 7 years old

The word food is questionable, since the bread-like and meat-like substances have not molded or spoiled in any way. Bugs won’t even bother with it. Please think twice about giving this to your kids. You have a choice, but they don’t. We truly are what we eat.”
Eat to live not live to eat!!!!

How Toxic Is Red Dye 40?

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What Is It Red Dye 40?
Red 40 is a certified color that comes from petroleum distillates or coal tars. The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) mandates that it should be listed by name on food and product labels. Additives that don’t need to be specified on labels are called “exempt.” These colorings are made from plant, animal, or mineral sources.

Per the Center for Science in the Public Interest, Red 40 and other AFCs can cause allergic reactions in some people. Research shows they can also cause hyperactivity in children (ADHD) and immune system tumors in mice. Red 40 contains p-Cresidine, which the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services says is “reasonably anticipated” to be a human carcinogen.

One study found that Red 40 lowers reproductive success in rats. It also reduced parental and offspring weight, decreased brain weight, and lowered chances for survival in newborn rats. The authors said the colorant showed evidence of physical and behavioral toxicity in developing rats that consumed Red 40 as 10 percent of their diet. The Environmental Working Group lists the overall hazard level for Red 40 as low. Other entities claim it is highly toxic, most importantly because people are unaware of how much they are exposed to it.

Foods that aren’t red or orange can still include Red 40. You can find it, and other AFCs, in cheeses, peanut butter crackers, salad dressings, and marshmallows.

Red 40 goes by the following names:
Red 40
Red No. 40
FD & C Red No. 40
FD and C Red No. 40
Allura Red
Allura Red AC
C. I. 16035
C.I. Food Red 17

Here are just a few of the products on the market that contain Red 40
Eye Shadows
Body Washes
Sun Tanning Products
Trix
Fruity Cherrios
Fruity Pebbles
M&Ms
Reese’s Pieces
Skittles
Peeps
Candy Corn
Jellybeans

To avoid Red 40, look for foods that don’t contain any artificial dyes. After receiving much backlash from concerned consumers, some companies are now using natural dyes as alternatives to Red 40. These Red 40 alternatives can be derived from natural products such as beets, elderberry, and purple sweet potatoes.

ARE YOU A FOOD ADDICT? FOOD ADDICTS ANONYMOUS (FAA) WILL START MAY 11TH . COME AND FIX YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH FOOD, YOUR SELF AND YOUR PAST!

FAAFood Addicts Anonymous (FAA) is an organization that has offered hope and solutions for thousands of people. If you are a person who has struggled for years to eat healthy foods and maintain a healthy weight, Food Addicts Anonymous may be the place for you. If you are someone that binges by eating large quantities of sweets or starches, you may find that FAA offers a solution. If you are a person who purges their body by extreme measures such as vomiting, laxatives or excessive exercise, you are not alone and may find comfort and support in our fellowship. If you have found yourself limiting your intake of foods and have people in your life telling you that you need to eat more, you may find value and hope in this program.
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